I'm so excited to launch this new guide with the help of the amazing Rita Loyd. She is such a soulful, nurturing spirit and her wisdom in self-love and nurturing will help you in your your journey of self-discovery towards love, nourishment, tenderness, trust and care.
AS I FACE THIS PARTICULAR CHALLENGE IN MY LIFE:
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I PROMISE MYSELF to face it with the support and encouragement of unconditional
self-love: I will speak to myself, treat myself and envision myself with love, support and
encouragement. I will pay attention to what my needs are ~ spirit, mind and body and do
my best to address those needs with love, understanding and action.
I make this pledge to myself because I know unconditional self-love can be difficult to
sustain during times of personal crisis. And that is because personal crisis is often
accompanied by thoughts of failure and self-doubt.
STEP 1
I will ask myself to honestly look at this challenge that I am facing and identify
what exactly are the hardest parts to it. (In what ways does this life challenge make
my life more difficult? What concerns arise as I think about this life challenge? What
emotions arise as I think about this life challenge? ~ fear, sadness, frustration, anger?)
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STEP 2
I will observe how I presently speak to myself, treat myself and envision myself as
I deal with this particular challenge in my life.
How have I been TREATING myself during this challenging time?
Do I treat myself fairly?
Do I treat myself with respect?
Do I treat myself with kindness?
Do I try to help myself?
Do I pay attention to what I need and how I feel?
Do I listen to my own intuition?
Do I accept myself as I am?
Do I have realistic expectations towards others and myself?
Do I allow myself a creative outlet?
Do I allow myself time to reflect?
Do I allow myself time to relax and renew?
Do I take my own opinion seriously?
Do I allow myself to feel the satisfaction of helping someone else?
Do I open my mind to new ideas?
Do I think for myself?
Or do I treat myself neglectfully? Abusively? Critically? Unfairly? Negatively? Narrow-mindedly? Unrealistically and criticize anything less than perfection?)
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How have I been ENVISIONING myself during this challenging time?
How do I see myself?
What do I think about myself?
How would I describe
myself to someone else?
Do I see myself and my future in a positive way or in a negative way?
Do I see myself learning and growing from this life challenge or do I see myself failing and defeated? Do I see myself as a smart and capable person or do I see myself as a stupid person?
Do I have faith and confidence in myself to get through this difficult time or do I envision myself dying or losing my mind instead?
Do I see myself as basically a good person or do I condemn myself as a bad and undeserving person because of the mistakes I have made?)
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How have I been SPEAKING to myself during this challenging time?
Do I speak to myself with words of understanding and compassion or with words of
blame, shame, guilt and neglect?
Do I speak to myself as I would a friend or do I call myself ugly names and criticize myself?
Do I take ownership and examine my own feeling or do I give my power away by blaming other people for what I feel?
Do I speak to myself with words of hope and faith or do I deny myself of both?
A particularly good time to tune into self-dialog is when I am feeling upset with strong emotions.
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STEP 3
I will ask myself “As I deal with this challenge in my life, have my thoughts,
words and actions toward myself been:
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Or have my thoughts, words and actions toward myself been:
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Lacking confidence, trust and faith in myself________________________________
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The answers to this question will give you an idea of where you are.
You can be lovingly honest with yourself and take self-resposnibility for nourishing yourself. Print this blog post out and use it as a worksheet or guide to help you discover where you still need to
be more loving and compassionate with yourself.
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