What is empowerment?

• Empowerment is being clear about who you are  
• Empowerment is feeling free to feel all your feelings
• Empowerment is owning your personal transformation and what needs to be changed
• Empowerment is speaking your truth even if you disappoint others
• Empowerment is letting go of repetitive patterns, beliefs and habits that keep you stuck
• Empowerment is taking control of your life
• Empowerment is being able to walk away from abusive or toxic situations
• Empowerment is being free to break the ties that bind
• Empowerment is using your power to choose

Empowerment is when you move your will power through strong emotions like fear or anger ad confusion. You can use the energy behind anger, fear and confusion and transform them into positive qualities that nourish your life. You can use them as doorways into a journey of self-discovery and transformation.

Empowerment is actively taking charge of your thoughts. Changing long-held belief-systems, patterns and habits takes time and devotion.



For example, when you are not feeling loved what do you tend to do? Would you like someone to tell you they love you? To be empowered around this issue you would have to stop waiting for someone else to tell you are loved and start telling yourself. You would need to tell yourself frequently to really let it in. In other words, you have to value yourself and define your sacred identity as eternal, worthy and deserving. This is your own experience of self-respect and self-esteem. Most people practice self-loving thoughts, have self-sufficient habits and move through negative experiences with the intent to learn about themselves. This takes effort. Empowerment itself becomes a daily spiritual practice and nourishes your need for inner strength.

So how do you practice being empowered? The first step is to notice self-sabotaging thought forms like 'yes but', 'if only...'. Notice when you are putting yourself down or devaluing yourself by comparing yourself with other people. These are bad habits that can be changed. You are a unique individual and any comparison to anyone else can sabotage your progress towards self-healing. Empowerment is also commitment to your own personal growth.

When you have told yourself enough times you are deeply loved then you will start to own and embody that love. Once you embody your self-love, you will no longer be waiting for someone to tell you are loved. You will already know you are. You'll will be less interested in spending time with people who do not behave in loving ways towards you. Especially if you are being more loving to yourself than they are able to be to you. Moving away from unsupportive unloving or toxic relationships is a natural consequence of loving yourself more and a positive effect for you as it will help you to loosen ties with people who do not fully appreciate you.

Empowerment is a choice. You choose to change. You give yourself the permission to do sacred, internal work. You generate power and the strength to push through an old identity and channel confidence and will power to create a new identity that serves a higher purpose. Empowerment can manifest in different forms and here are a few.

If you are struggling with this self-love (if you were neglected or abused as a child and feel unloved because of this) then seek help from a good therapist to help you unravel this entrenched, unhelpful, painful belief.  And if you are really stuck then one of the kindest and most loving thing you can do for yourself is admit you have got as far as you can on your own and seek help.

Empowerment is taking charge of yourself and sometimes that means questioning beliefs forged in childhood and making changes so you can be the adult you want to be.

Empowerment is living your life the way you want.